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Reposted by Jessica
“I was really young when I got my first period – a month after I turned nine. It was on a Sunday. I remember coming back into the house after playing outside for the afternoon with my sister – who, ironically enough, was almost 12 at the time she reading “Are You There God? It’s me, Margaret,” and eagerly awaiting her own “journey” into womanhood. I told my mom I’d be right back (my sister and I were supposed to set the table for dinner) because I really needed to go to the bathroom. On my way there, I realized that something was going on down there that had never gone on before. I didn’t need to pee, but something was leaking out of me. When I pulled down my pants I saw a huge brown stain and began screaming for my mom and aunt.
They asked me to tell that what was wrong (it’s considered very rude to disturb a Filipino woman while she’s cooking), but I couldn’t for the life of me get the words out. My aunt showed up first, looked down at me, and said something in Tagalog ( I think the word was “Hisos!,” which means “Oh my God!”), and ran for my mother. Mom walked in thirty seconds later and flipped out. She had absolutely no idea how to handle the situation – I mean, the entire household was awaiting my sister, Chloe’s first menstruation, and there I was, barely nine years old, the baby girl of the family, just bleeding away.
So while I’m hanging out on the toilet and my aunt and mother are just looking at each other figuring out what to say or do, the absolute worst possible thing happened: my dad came home and called out, “Where is everybody? What’s going on?” My father is a great guy and all, but he was the type of dad who didn’t believe in hugs or show affection. He farted out the melodies of songs and sang Frank Sinatra’s “I Did it My Way” at the top of his lungs in the shower. My mother called him the typical “immature, machismo, unrefined Filipino boy.” So when he showed up I wasn’t thrilled. My mom yelled something at him in Tagalog and he did three things: appeared in the doorway, laughed at me for two seconds, and went about his business. I was so embarrassed.
While my highly religious aunt went to go pray for my soul or something, my mom put me in the bathtub, washed me down there, and prepared some underwear. She showed me how to use a pad, and took me into the garage for a “Chinese ritual” (my Mom’s father was Chinese and she practiced a lot of the superstitions). What happened next was the strangest thing: she made me jump down a flight of three steps, over and over again. She said that it would make my period last three days or something.
I remember thinking I was going through the single most unique and crazy period experience. Now when I look back on it, I think it’s kinda cool because it was, for lack of a better word…multi-cultural. But at the time, I wanted nothing more than to be an American girl experiencing the American version of a first menstruation.”
Story from a WMNS36 (Women’s and Gender Studies) Seminar (Spring, 1998) project at Kenyon College.
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In honor of Men’s Health Month this June, Fertility Centers of Illinois is debunking 11 common male infertility myths for men nationwide.
Approximately 2,000,000 men per year are diagnosed with infertility in the United States, but through simple lifestyle changes, many men can improve their fertility significantly.
For male infertility issues that require fertility treatment to achieve pregnancy, men should rest assured that these issues are highly treatable with great success.
“Many men don’t think about their fertility, and avoid learning more due to a fear of the unknown,” explains Dr. Christopher Sipe of Fertility Centers of Illinois. “Learning about basic male infertility helps take the fear and confusion out of conception.”
To help men understand fertility, Dr. Sipe has dispelled 11 male infertility myths:
Myth: Age does not affect male fertility.
A recent study published in the journal Nature has shown that paternal fertility decreases with age. The study found a direct link between paternal age and an increased risk of autism and schizophrenia. The study also shows that fathers pass on as many as four times more genetic mutations when compared to mothers. It is important that men are aware of their age and fertility potential during conception. If you plan to delay fatherhood, preserving fertility by freezing sperm is a relatively inexpensive way to “freeze” your fertility in time. If you are older and looking to conceive, a semen analysis evaluating shape and motility will provide valuable insight to fertility potential.
Myth: Only women need to take supplements to improve fertility.
It has long been known that women should take folic acid while trying to conceive, as well as during pregnancy to prevent certain birth defects, but folic acid is now known to be an important supplement in male fertility. Researchers at the University of California found that men had a higher rate of chromosomal abnormalities in their sperm when their diet was low in folic acid. Coenzyme Q10 has also been found to increase sperm count and sperm motility, while Vitamin E also improves low sperm count.
Myth: Smoking doesn’t affect male fertility.
Statistics don’t lie. Smoking increases chances of male infertility by 30 percent. Cutting out cigarettes is an obvious health advantage, but many don’t realize how harmful cigarettes can be to fertility. A report by the British Medical Association showed that smokers may have up to a 10-40 percent lower monthly fecundity (a.k.a. fertility) rate. The American Society for Reproductive Medicine has estimated that up to 13 percent of infertility may be caused by tobacco use. The effect is dose dependent on the number of cigarettes smoked per day. Smoking as few as 5 cigarettes per day has been associated with lower fertility rates in males (and females).
Myth: Cell phones, laptops, hot tubs and bicycles don’t have an effect on semen quality.
Heat in extreme amounts can damage the testes and decline semen quality. A recent study by Fertility and Sterility found that the heat created from laptops can affect sperm motility and cause DNA damage. Cell phone emissions can also cause sperm damage, so keep phones in the back pocket and put a fan under your laptop. Men should be careful of putting too much time on the bike or lounging too long in a hot tub. Not to worry – semen quality typically declines only in extreme use or regular exposure. Enjoy your life and simply be aware and moderate in your habits.
Myth: Only hard drugs can affect male fertility.
Hard drugs affect fertility – and most importantly, pose a threat to your life. But it isn’t just hard drugs that can affect fertility health. Prescription drugs, antibiotics, blood pressure medication and even exposure to lead and mercury can affect the quality and quantity of sperm. Frequent marijuana use has also been known to cause similar problems.
Myth: In a healthy male, all sperm are healthy.
In an average male, only 14% of sperm by strict morphology have a normal shape, size, and ability to move properly. While this may seem low, remember that you only need one sperm to fertilize an egg and become pregnant.
Myth: Male infertility is genetic.
While male infertility can be genetically passed down, there are several different factors that can cause male infertility. A cancer diagnosis or injury can result in male infertility, while repeated infection or immunity problems can decrease male fertility. A multitude of lifestyle choices such as diet, nutrition, smoking habits, drug use, exercise habits and body weight can decrease male fertility.
Myth: There is no common diagnosis with male infertility.
While the specific cause of male infertility can vary greatly, the most common diagnosis associated with male infertility is low sperm count.
Myth: Separate health problems do not affect male fertility.
Chronic conditions such as diabetes and liver cirrhosis can cause abnormal male ejaculation due to nerve damage and retrograde ejaculation. Muscles in the bladder normally close during ejaculation, preventing the entry of semen. During retrograde ejaculation, the semen is redirected into the bladder when these muscles fail to activate. If you are concerned that a chronic condition may be impacting your fertility, reach out to a physician to learn more.
Myth: Weight does not affect fertility.
Extra weight presents a multitude of health issues, and can wreak havoc on male fertility. Obesity causes elevated estrogen and low testosterone levels, which can cause sperm count to decrease. Overweight males also experience a decreased libido. The simple solution is to calculate your Body Mass Index, which provides a healthy numerical range based on height and weight, and work towards it. Exercise will increase energy, decrease weight, and equalize testosterone and libido levels.
Myth: Diet does not affect male fertility.
Quite simply, you are what you eat. Men who consume high-fat diets have been found to have a decreased sperm count. Conversely, a mostly plant-based diet has been found to improve fertility and overall health. Fill your refrigerator and pantry with whole grains, fruits, and vegetables while avoiding thick cuts of meat and refined carbohydrates such as white bread and cookies.
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