Congratulations – how did you find out?

CONGRATULATIONS you are pregnant … I am so hoping that it has been a calm journey to this point. However, I know for some mummies-to-be that the beginning of the pregnancy can be a little fraught with a multitude of different experiences sprinkled in for good measure. So when did you find out and how did you tell your partner?


How did you tell your partner?

When did you find out? 

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how did you find out

I can also imagine that if you have shared your news that the birth stories (both positive and negative) have been winging their way to you. It’s a little daunting to hear someone else’s birth story, especially if they feel that it was traumatic. I’ve had a few encounters when I’ve been wearing my “work” top and women have sidled up to me and started chatting and of course we inevitably stumble onto the topic of birth and they openly share their trauma. After listening to them and acknowledging their experience, I do ask them “what would you do different next time?”
The usual response is “there won’t be a next time!.” However, I say “well just suppose you fell pregnant, what would you do differently?”
This makes them pause and start to think about what they experienced and the choices they made or in some cases didn’t because the pathway took a different direction that they were least prepared for and so choice was taken away from them.
I know it may still feel early to you to be thinking about this however knowing all of your options is really helpful so that you can be as well informed as possible.

Positive Birth Stories – we need to hear them.

Let’s have a go at the next activity.


WHAT IS IT THAT YOU WANT TO ACHIEVE?

WHAT ARE YOUR EXPECTATIONS?

WHAT DO YOU NEED TO KNOW? 

Grab a pen and paper and start to think about the above … do this on your own and then with your partner.
Understanding what you would like to achieve is really important …